Deciding what to wear to a funeral is something many people worry about, so we’ve put together some hints to help. Traditionally, black is worn to funerals. This has roots in history as far back as Ancient Rome, and is because we associate the colour with mourning and solemnity due to the reminder of dust and ashes. Many people also see it as a way to focus on the deceased at this celebration of their life, rather than looking at what people are wearing.
Sometimes, a funeral dress code will be provided that encourages bright outfits or clothing in the favourite colour of the person. If this information hasn’t been given, it’s best to stick with black or dark coloured outfits. Avoid things like noisy shoes, bright printed fabrics, and heavy perfume or aftershave that could irritate other mourners.
Funeral Outfit Ideas for Women
When choosing an outfit, consider classic, modest looks. Covering your knees and shoulders will ensure you don’t accidentally offend anyone. You should try to match other mourners, so sticking to traditional outfits like a simple black dress or a dark blouse and skirt will ensure you don’t stand out. Emotions will be running high, and picking a loud or revealing outfit could be seen as trying to draw attention away from the deceased person and lead to an argument. For winter funerals, consider bringing an extra layer like a dark blazer or coat, especially if you’re going to be outside for a burial. It’s sure to be an emotional day, so you don’t want to be cold or uncomfortable, too. For other types of weather, consider bringing sunglasses or an umbrella where appropriate so you aren’t caught out.
When it comes to accessories, you’ll need comfortable shoes as funerals can be long and involve a lot of standing. You don’t want big colourful jewellery for the reasons we’ve already mentioned, so consider a couple of elegant, dainty pieces such as a small gold bracelet and matching earrings. For a bag, ensure it matches your outfit and think about the fact that you’ll be carrying it around for what could be a long day, so don’t bring anything too heavy. Make sure there is room for tissues, though, as you and those sitting with you are sure to need them. For makeup, go with waterproof and light.
Funeral Outfit Ideas for Men
For men deciding what to wear to a funeral, it’s best to also go for classic and understated looks. A smart suit in black or navy blue would be an excellent choice. Pair your suit with a crisp white shirt and a plain tie, as bright or silly ties may offend other mourners. It’s best to choose limited or no accessories so you don’t draw attention to yourself, therefore, it’s probably a good idea to leave cufflinks or large neck chains at home. Casual shoes such as trainers or sports shoes may be offensive to some, so choose smart shoes that match your suit and that you’ll be comfortable in for a long day. If you’re not a suit person, you could pair a long-sleeved dark shirt with smart black trousers. Add a smart tie if you’re comfortable with one to ensure it’s a classic outfit. Make sure you bring a jacket or umbrella, depending on the forecast, so you’re comfortable no matter what the weather.
Most men also ensure they’re well-groomed before a funeral. Taking the extra time to tidy up your beard or moustache, trim your hair, and shine your shoes will make sure you turn up to the funeral showing your respect.
At Gardenia Funerals, we work with grieving families to create the services and memorials that focus on the small details to honour their loved ones. Find out more about Gardenia here.